Find your Spark

match imgs_wordpress.jpgI was in desperate need of some downtime as February rolled around this year. It is a rough month after all the holiday celebrations, plus the not-so-sunny weather. It was a bit quiet, but I guess that was necessary for me. My focus has been on aligning my work better with the other parts of my life – quite frankly that has always been my focus – or struggle.

What you do every day matters more than what you do once in a while.

This Secret of Adulthood, from Gretchen Rubin’s was replaying in my mind all month. So I took the downtime to really help me reflect on what I want my days, weeks and months to look like in all areas of my life. It must have done me some good because I started off March with a refreshed feeling. The hint of Spring can do wonders for an energy boost. Throughout these last couple weeks I have been finding little sparks to build on that energy everywhere it seems – conversations, books, events and client work.

I realized these are the sparks that need to be infused into my schedule regularly. For me, adding consistency but also a variety of perspectives is most important to fuel my mind so I can build upon my ideas. It is similar to when a match is lit. One continues striking the match (consistently), and changes the angle they hold the match and then the amount of pressure they push on the match (switching perspectives) until finally, it catches fire!

I have a little fire burning now and continue to find new ways to add sparks into my days. I am always looking for new sparks though, if you have any please share!

How do you find your sparks?

Make Mindful Choices


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Little did I know that when I chose Decision Making as a theme for this month, I would be struggling to make decisions. But here I sit, in a sea of overwhelming indecision and frustration. It blind-sided me a bit since I felt relatively successful for July’s focus of Be Productive. As I even struggled to decide on content for August, I did run across some helpful thoughts from others that I hope will curb the indecisiveness.

When you have to make a choice and don’t make it, that is in itself a choice.

– William James

This was a huge light bulb for me. I become irritated quickly when others avoid dealing with important situations or discussions – it won’t go away if you ignore it in most cases. I suppose that is a lesson for me – the traits that irritate me the most in others are probably the same challenges I have myself. By choosing to remain in the land of indecision, I am doing the same thing. I just never looked at choosing to not choose as an actual choice.

With that thought in mind, I then came across this gem from Gretchen Rubin (as I was aimlessly scrolling through social media on my phone because I was avoiding writing this post last night).

 If you are too tired to do anything except watch TV or cruise the internet, go to sleep.

– Gretchen Rubin

I did go to sleep and felt much better about mindfully choosing to get my 8 hours in so I could enjoy the next day and start making some decisions. I am still trying to determine the reasons for my indecisions. Often when a person resists doing something it boils down to fear. Fear of rejection, failure, imperfection, the wrong path or possibly success? I have definitely found myself dragging my feet on decisions lately because the outcome would be success! Which brings me to one of my favorites by Marianne Williamson.

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

– Marianne Williamson

I hope to find some more resources this month to get past the indecisiveness and I will share what I find. I feel better knowing that I am making a mindful choice towards action.

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Where do you struggle with indecision in your life?

Can you identify the reason for your indecision?

How do you overcome indecision and move toward making mindful choices?

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2015: Ready. Set. Action!

Happy New Year!
Yes – I know it is February already. Technically, it is a new year the whole year, right!? Although I may be slow to start on-line, I have been super busy off-line.

Essential to beginning my new year was the matter of choosing a theme. So 2015 is designated as “The Year of Action.” Specifically, Action that is purposeful – meaning my actions align with my values and support my goals – personal and professional.

Action

I created some serious to-do lists in January. A good bit of my energy was expended on reviewing the last year so I could “define my work”, which is the behind-the-scenes goodness that seems so easy until you dig into it, such as:

  • What am I most passionate about? (so many things)
  • How can I best help “others”? (With some new services I just posted!)
  • Who exactly are these “others”? (I call them Passionate Do-Gooders!)
  • Why do I do this work? (To make the world better)

Those are some BIG questions and I placed a check mark next to each one! <Insert pat on the back here>

Now that I have a good foundation set, I am working to translate that into….yes you guessed it – Action!
I know where I can be derailed sometimes so I am taking extra steps to address some of my more challenging attributes in all areas of my life.

  • This post is a way to add accountability for my to-do lists and this year’s theme.
  • I also just pre-ordered Gretchen Rubin’s new book Better Than Before and completed the free assessment to determine how I meet expectations and how I can improve some of my habits.
  • I even added a 35 day Jazzercise challenge and Creativity Retreat to my calendar.

How is your 2015 going so far?

Have you designated a theme for this year?

What kind of tactics do you use to keep yourself accountable?

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